Minnesotans talk frequently about “Minnesota Nice.” Many behaviors fall under this category: the Minnesota Goodbye, the Inability to Tell Your Friend They Have Something in Their Teeth, and the I’m Nice to Your Face But Try to Merge on the Interstate and You’re SOL, to name a few. While some of these things are “nice,” a lot of it is simply passive aggression.
I had a conversation with a friend about this the other day, because it’s one of the things about Minnesota (see that, I said Minnesota instead of MinnesotANS…classic example) that really bothers her (a non-native Minnesotan) and me (born and raised here). And, I’m guilty of it myself at times. I’ll admit it.
Overall, though, I’m kind of an honest person. Translation: I’m not always popular. I try to squarsh my bluntness, but at the same time I don’t want to lie to people. This doesn’t always go over well here. I think lying is often expected, if not appreciated. People want to hear what they want to hear. Being polite and considerate is good, don’t get me wrong. But harboring aggression while acting in a passive (or “woe is me”) manner is not good.
So tell me, what is something equivalent to “Minnesota Nice” in your state/area? Maybe Minnesota isn’t alone…