Anja has been going through an “I will negate everything you say” phase for about 3 months now. It started with the phrase “I couldn’t.” Some examples:
“Mama, I couldn’t want to go to bed.”
“I couldn’t take a bath.”
“I couldn’t read a book.” (Even though she loves reading, when overly-tired, she will turn down everything, even her favorite pastimes and toys.)
The “I couldn’t” phase has morphed into a “No, my not” phase. Keep in mind that “my” is her new substitute for “I” here. Examples:
Me: Anja, would you like some oatmeal for breakfast?
Anja: No, my NOT want oatmeal for breakfast. My want jelly beans.
Me: Well, Mama is making oatmeal, so if you’d like some breakfast, climb up in your chair.
Anja, climbing into her chair: No, my will NOT eat oatmeal.
Anja: Mama, wanna read a book?
Me: Sure, pick one out and go sit in the green chair, and Mama will come read it to you.
Anja: No, my NOT wanna read a book.
Me: You just asked me to read you a book.
Anja, falling into tantrum on the floor: No read a book! NO read a book!
Me: Um, no one is forcing you. That’s fine with me. Goes on with daily tasks.
Anja, picking herself up: Mama, wanna read a book?
And today’s example, hot from the lips of Husband:
Anja, angry because Daddy got out the car seat for the new baby: I will sit in this car seat.
Daddy: No, this car seat is for the new baby.
Anja: No, I sit in it. It’s not for the baby.
Daddy: Yes it is. You’re going to love the baby.
Anja: No, my will NOT love the baby.
Daddy: Yes you will. And the baby will love you.
Anja: No, the baby will not love me.
Daddy: Yes, the baby will love you.
Anja: No, the baby will not love me; I’m dangerous.
While it provides some pretty funny moments, this pattern is getting old. She turns down everything, the things she wants to do and the things she doesn’t want to do. Please tell me it will be over soon!